Breaking the taboo against discussing miscarriage
Why I Want You to Know I'm Pregnant.
Sybil Sanchez writes, "the convention of waiting three months to announce a pregnancy hurts; it obstructs my access to social support in multiple ways.
If, G-d forbid, I have another loss, how can those who don’t know help? Who should I tell first when no one knew that I was pregnant to begin with? As I nervously nurture my first trimester, avoiding travel and recalculating my plans, how do I explain my lack of ability to commit to dates, complicated by the fact that nine months are not even a given for me?
To hide this liminality between life and death is to hide everything.
I refuse to perpetuate an outdated, harmful social norm by hiding my personal battle to have a biological family as if I am ashamed of my fertility challenges."
Sybil Sanchez writes, "the convention of waiting three months to announce a pregnancy hurts; it obstructs my access to social support in multiple ways.
If, G-d forbid, I have another loss, how can those who don’t know help? Who should I tell first when no one knew that I was pregnant to begin with? As I nervously nurture my first trimester, avoiding travel and recalculating my plans, how do I explain my lack of ability to commit to dates, complicated by the fact that nine months are not even a given for me?
To hide this liminality between life and death is to hide everything.
I refuse to perpetuate an outdated, harmful social norm by hiding my personal battle to have a biological family as if I am ashamed of my fertility challenges."
posted by Shira Salamone at 2:24 PM
1 Comments:
Sybil -
My God bless you and keep you and the beautiful new life inside you safe from harm, now and for decades to come.
Yasher koach, and thank you for speaking out with your important message.
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